Trying to control new situations creates stress. Worse yet, research shows that stress makes you dumb. Your creative-thinking brain shuts down under stress. You’ll be more confident if you give control.
After social pleasantries, give control to the person you’re coaching by asking. What would you like to get out of our conversation today? Don’t ask, What would you like to talk about?
What would you like to get out of today’s conversation?, is about finding solutions, not topics to discuss.